January has come and gone and it left pretty quickly.
I know I had my eyes set on a prize when the New Year started and although I haven’t lost sight of the prize; I did detour a little bit. That’s okay though. The good thing about resolutions is that you have the opportunity to start all over again.
So on your mark, get set, Go! Welcome to your ‘Resolution Redo.’
- Step 1: List 3-5 MAJOR things you want to accomplish this year.
- For me, I’d like to lose the rest of this baby weight (and then some…)
- Give Cali the best start I can in life
- This here is huge for me. As most single parents know (or those that are primarily responsible for the well-being and care of their child), it’s scary to think about what may happen if you aren’t here to take care of them. It’s something you don’t want to think about but set yourself and your baby up. It’ll ease your mind.
- Figure out my finances and conquer them
- Take care of myself
- Step 2: Break your major goals into bite-size chunks (This is where my nifty planner that I mentioned earlier comes in handy–read the post here).
- When I say bite-sized, I mean it. Don’t give yourself more than 3-5 things in a month to accomplish in a month. You don’t want to overwhelm yourself but you don’t want to not challenge yourself either.
- After you list your chunks for the month, figure out how to get it done!
Goal #1: I have a schedule set up for Cali and myself. When she wakes, eats, when she should arrive at school, when I’m work, etc. Now it’s not down to a ‘t’ because I work part-time Friday- Sunday but Cali’s day is laid out very well. There’s one problem though: I’m terrible at waking up and she’s terrible (sometimes terrible- I’ll cut her some slack) at falling asleep.
Because of this, we’re almost always late, we don’t have enough playtime after I pick her up from daycare, and I never get to get a workout in. That’s not good for either of us. So my goal is to stick to the schedule. In fact, I’m working out tonight — it’s on the schedule.
Goal #2: Create a will. Y’all! My child is the most important person in my whole life and I’ll be damned (excuse my language) if I don’t take care of her now and if I can’t help her take care of herself if something were to happen to me. I may not always agree with my parents but I will agree with this advice: you need to have a ‘Plan A,’ ‘Plan B’ and keep going until you hit ‘Plan Z.’ If you feel like you STILL haven’t planned enough, start on the Greek Alphabet. I’ve thought and thought about what to do about the future and it’s time to set it in legal stone.
I’ll let you know how this will-thing works out. I feel like maybe it’s something they should teach in ‘Adulting 101’ or ‘Parenting 101: Finances.’ Maybe I can start MY OWN UNIVERSITY!!!
Goal #3: I’m not good with money. At all. I have “good” debt, I have bad debt, but, overall, I’m in debt. That’s not the life I want to live for myself and that’s not a life I want to live with my baby. Ultimately, I’d like to be 100% debt free in the next 5 years. That may seem like a long time to some but like I said, “I’m in debt.”
Right now, I’m reading this AMAZING book called “The Spender’s Guide to Debt-Free Living.” I initially thought it would be another debt and finance management book but it’s so much more than that. I’m implementing a 6-month spending fast come March because of this book and I’m preparing for it now.
What are your big goals for the year? How are you going to accomplish them? There’s no shame in hitting the reset button. Do it often if you have to. Just keep moving forward.